Mom Fasts Again

Day 145 / 4 months 3 weeks and 5 days old baby who is blogging his daily notes on himself

Today mom fasts again, it's the second day. As I said before mom has to fast in exchange of days she did not fast during Ramadan because she was pregnant of me and was worried if she kept her fasting would have some health effect on me.

This reason, dad says, is enable mom to not fast during Ramadan as far as she make up in another months outside Ramadan. She also has to pay fidyah--that's food to be given to a poor person.

Dad says, as for fidyah details there are some differences among fiqh (islamic jurispredence) experts as follows:

The scholars differed concerning the ruling on pregnant woman and breastfeeding mothers if they do not fast. There are several opinions.

1 – That they have to make up the fasts only. This is the view of Imam Abu Haneefah (may Allaah have mercy on him). Among the Sahaabah, it was the view of ‘Ali ibn Abi Taalib (may Allaah be pleased with him).

2 – That if they fear for themselves, they have to make up the fast only, and if they fear for their children then they have to make up the fasts and feed one poor person for each day. This is the view of Imam al-Shaafa’i and Imam Ahmad. Al-Jassaas also narrated this from Ibn ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him).

3 – That they have to feed the poor only, and do not have to make up the fasts. Among the Sahaabah, this was the view of ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him). Ibn Qudaamah also narrated this in al-Mughni (3/37) from Ibn ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him).

Abu Dawood (2318) narrated from Ibn ‘Abbaas and ‘Ali that this phrase – “those who can fast with difficulty” [al-Baqarah 2:184] was a concession granted to old men and old women who find it difficult to fast, allowing them not to fast and to feed one poor person for each day instead, and the same for pregnant and breastfeeding women if they are afraid. Abu Dawood said: i.e., for their children – they may not fast and may feed (the poor) instead. Al-Nawawi said: its isnaad is hasan.

This was also narrated by al-Bazzaar who added at the end: Ibn ‘Abbaas used to say to a concubine of his who was pregnant: “You are like one who cannot fast, so you have to pay the fidyah but you do not have to make up the fasts.” Al-Daaraqutni classed its isnaad as saheeh, as stated by al-Haafiz in al-Talkhees.

Al-Jassaas narrated in Ahkaam al-Qur’aan that the scholars differed concerning this issue. He said:

The Salaf differed concerning this matter, and there were three points of view. ‘Ali said: they have to make up the fast if they do not fast, but they do not have to pay the fidyah. Ibn ‘Abbaas said: They have to pay the fidyah but do not have to make up the fasts. Ibn ‘Umar said: They have to pay the fidyah and make up the fasts.

Those who said that they only have to make up the fasts quoted the following as evidence:

1 – The report narrated by al-Nasaa’i (2274) from Anas, that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah has waived half of the prayer for the traveler, and fasting, and for those who are pregnant and breastfeeding.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Nasaa’i. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) stated that the ruling on pregnant and breastfeeding women is like the ruling on the traveler. The traveler may not fast and has to make it up later, and this also applies to pregnant and breastfeeding women. See Ahkaam al-Qur’aan by al-Jassaas.

2 – Analogy to the sick. Just as the sick are allowed not to fast and have to make it up later, the same applies to those who are pregnant and breastfeeding. See al-Mughni, 3/37; al-Majmoo’, 6/273.

This view was favoured by a number of scholars.

Shaykh Ibn Baaz said in Majmoo’ al-Fataawa, 15/225.

Pregnant and breastfeeding women come under the same ruling as those who are sick. If it is too difficult for them to fast then it is prescribed for them not to fast, but they have to make up the fasts when they are able to do so, like those who are sick. Some of the scholars are of the view that it is sufficient for them to feed one poor person for every day they missed, but this is a weak view. The correct view is that they have to make up missed fasts, just like travelers and those who are sick, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“but if any of you is ill or on a journey, the same number (should be made up) from other days”

[al-Baqarah 2:184]

He also said in Majmoo’ al-Fataawa, 15/227:

The correct view concerning this matter is that pregnant and breastfeeding women have to make up the fasts, and what was narrated from Ibn ‘Abbaas and Ibn ‘Umar, that pregnant and breastfeeding women have to feed the poor instead, is a weak view that goes against the shar’i evidence. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“but if any of you is ill or on a journey, the same number (should be made up) from other days”

[al-Baqarah 2:184]

Pregnant and breastfeeding women are likened to those who are sick, and do not come under the ruling on old men who are unable to fast. Rather they come under the ruling on those who are sick, so they should make up the fasts when they become able to do so, even if that is delayed.

It says in Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (10/220):

If a pregnant woman fears for herself or her foetus because of fasting in Ramadaan, she may break the fast and she only has to make up the missed fasts. In this regard she is like one who is sick and is unable to fast or fears that fasting will harm him. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“but if any of you is ill or on a journey, the same number (should be made up) from other days”

[al-Baqarah 2:184]

Similarly if a breastfeeding woman fears for herself if she nurses her child during Ramadaan, or she fears for her child if she fasts and does not breastfeed him, then she may not fast, and she only has to make up the missed fasts.

It also says in Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (10/226):

A pregnant woman has to fast when she is pregnant, unless she fears for herself or her foetus if she fasts, in which case she is allowed not to fast, but she has to make up the missed fasts after she gives birth and becomes pure from nifaas… it is not sufficient for her to feed a poor person instead, rather she has to fast and does not have to feed a poor person if she does that.

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said in al-Sharh al-Mumti’, 6/220, after mentioning the difference of scholarly opinion about the ruling on this matter, and expressing his preference for the view that she only has to make up the missed fasts :

This view is the most likely to be correct in my opinion, because at most they are like one who is sick or traveling, who only have to make up missed fasts.[1]

Mom follows strictly the opinion of Imam Shafi'i decree which implies that she has to make up the fast outside Ramadan and pay fidyah for the amount of days she left the fast out, meaning if she didnot fast for 17 days, as it the case, she has to pay fidyah one mud (around 675 gram rice or wheat) as well as to fast 17 days.

Oh one more thing, compared to the first day mom fasts, this time I don't feel distracted. I enjoy her breastfeeding as though she's not fasting.

And for that she's happy to see me being a good baby.

Last but the least, it's almost a week to go towards my five month landmark. Hope I reach that hallmark smoothly.

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[1] Cf. islam-qa.com

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With Mom to Wedding Party

Day 144 / 4 months 3 weeks and 4 days old baby who is blogging

I went to Kepanjen today along with dad and mom. While dad went alone to a bank, I and mom went to aunt Elvi (mom's elder sister) from there we go along to mom's friend wedding party.

She's a mom's childhood friend. Her home located in one neighborhood in Kauman Kepanjen.

The party is over quickly and we are back to Aunt Elvy's house, her new store to be precise, and been there for a while waiting dad to come from BRI.


In the meantime, the internet connection (Telkom Speedy) that went disconnected (off air) for a few days now is back! A very good news for Dad who are worried that this disconnection will cause him the disconnection with the world for too long.

Oh btw, I plan to publish a new video of me in the next post.

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Blogging from Warnet (Internet Cafe)

Day 143 / 4 months 3 weeks and 3 days of a Blogging Baby

I am blogging from Warnet or internet cafe nearby as the Speedy connection is still not working: the cable has not replaced yet.

This is the second day I am blogging from outside my house. Yesterday is the first. Not so comfortable actually because mom cannot breastfeed me freely in a public place.

Dad tries to contact some Telkom technician as to what they will and can do to sort thing out.

The stolen cable is on the main street in west Gondanglegi or Penjalinan as we call it so it should be problem for many Telkom customers.

But we cannot expect anything before tomorrow (Monday) because the main Telkom office in Kepanjen is closed now.

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No Speedy Connection The Cable Stolen

Day 142 / 4 months 3 weeks and 2 days of a Blogging Baby

Today I could not access the internet. Dad and mom also cannot be online. It's not clear until when.

We use Telkom Speedy connection using Telkom landline phone.

The connection is good. The problem is when the cable is stolen by thief. There will be no connection until I don't know when. The cable has been stolen days before. Just one day after it's replaced it's stolen again at night.

This is the irony with poverty. Religion can prevent you to steal when your stomach is hungry. Nor police is able to stop them from stealing again and again.

I think Speedy should have an alternate tools other than landline cable for such area where cable stealing is rampant and occur oftentimes.




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Mom's Fasting Distracts My Appetite

Day 141 / 4 months 3 weeks and 1 day of a Blogging Baby

Yesterday mom did fasting to change the Ramadan fast she did not do for the sake of her would be baby that's me. In total, mom didn't fast for about 17 days. She should do fast in exchange of those day in other months.

That's why starting from yesterday mom does the first fasting. It goes well in the morning to me. In the afternoon, however, it took affect a little bit: mom's breastmilk tasted not so good to me.

That distracts my appetite. I a bit fussy due to that stuff. As a pure breastfed baby who drinks and eats from and relies heavily on mom's beastfeeding, this distraction really matters.

I cried. Dad and mom brought me to some other places nearby to lure me as to not cry. We went to Kepanjen before noon and to Gondanglegi in the afternoon. Mom bought some food and cuisine for fast-breaker.

At around 5.30 pm mom broke her fast and the good taste of her breastmilk returning to normal again.

I am glad today she's not fasting. She plan to do fast once every two days.

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Baby Massages Video

Day 140 / 4 months 3 weeks a Blogging Baby

Getting massages will make a tired baby like me --who just done a 400 km trip to another province -- is obviously the need of the hour.

That's exactly why mom and dad brought me yesterday to Kauman Kepanjen where Mak Yah Singosari happens to be there. She's expert in massaging baby like me.

That's said, I was crying outloud during the massaging process. Probably the loudest and longest cry I've ever done.

After that, however, the pain and tiring I felt were amazingly gone. Baby expert says "massaging your baby is beneficial on many levels including relaxing your baby, helping to reduce crying while improving the immune system."

If you're curious to hear how I cry, watch the video below. Mom and aunts (mom sisters) says I have the loudest cry among my cousins.



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Kudus Trip Photos 3

Day 139 / 4 months 2 weeks 6 days of a Blogging Baby

Photo 1. An old interior inside Sunan Kudus, Kudus, central java

Photo 2. I am with dad (well, dad is a reticent person who never shows his face whenever we take photo together).

Photo 3. The bride and groom, aunt Indah and uncle-in-law Arif during the wedding party on 22 June 2009 in Kudus.
















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Kudus Trip Photos 2

Day 139 / 4 months 2 weeks 6 days of a Blogging Baby

Photo 1. Wedding party in Kudus for which we come to this city. The bride is Aunt Indah Zawawi (mom's cousin) weds Arif.

Photo 2 & 3: Me, mom and baby sitter inside Sunan Kudus cemetery.

Photo 4: The famous Menara Kudus (Kudus minaret)

Photo 5: The unique cuisine called Pindang Ayam and Sate Kerbau at a restaurant near Alun-alun Kudus











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Kudus Trip Photos

Day 138 of a Blogging Baby

Many interesting photos that we have and took during our trip to Kudus from the day we start the journey, during the stay in Kudus and on the way home from Kudus.

I'll post the photos from post to post so that it will not slow your server to load it.

Besides, posting all photos at once needs too much time and I am not just as patient as you in posting large photos into a blog.



So, you may take a look at some photos of me, a little baby who has made a "big journey" of 400 km away from home.

Photos of Baby's Trip to Kudus Jateng 21 - 22 June 2009.

Photo 1 and 2: I sleep in the car on the way to Kudus.

Photo 3: We take a rest on Jatim - Jateng (East Java - Central Java)'s border. We're doing prayer with Jama's taqdim (Dhuhur and Ashr) method [1], and having a meal in the Pantura Ria restaurant

Photo 4: We stay at a hotel Sallimna in downtown Kudus at Jl. Subchan 36 (Thanks to uncle Fais / Faisol Al Farokhi, for guiding us to this place)

Photo 5: A street sign in Kudus















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In Kudus Day Two

Day 137 of a Blogging Baby

Update: The photos of Kudus trip can be found in these links:

1. Kudus Trip Photos 1
2. Kudus Trip Photos 2

It's day two we are in Kudus Jawa Tengah (jateng).

We arrive in Kudus at mbah Kustiyani Zawawi (dad and mom call her Bulek Kustiyani) at about 5 pm. Needs time to find her home as uncle Luthfi, the guide, just confused and "gone astray" himself.

At night we stay at Sallimna hotel located in Jalan H. Subchan Kudus. The price for 3 bedroom is IDR 75,000 (usd 7 ). It's a cheap with tv set and a fan but no AC.

We visit the famous Menara Kudus, the headquarter of Sunan Kudus one of the great walisongo (nine saints) who spread Islam and convert almost all Javanese (the majority of Indonesians) into Islam within a short span of time and with a very peaceful way; the way of sufism.

In the morning we also visit warung Pindang Ayam a restaurant with unique cuisine typically Kudus.

After the wedding ceremony, we visit mbah Sirajuddin (mom's uncle from her dad's side) who are seriously ill and accompanied only by his wife. We also visit mom's cousin Ma'ruf and Ida from mbah Zawawi.

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Going to Kudus

Day 136 of a Blogging Baby
A trip to Kudus Jateng Day One:

Finally we are on the way to Kudus Jawa Tengah (central java) which is roughly 400 km away from my home (Karangsuko, Pagelaran, Malang).

Starting from around 7 in the morning I, dad, mom along with uncle Lutfi and Bu Luha of Kepanjen with Pak Saleh as driver proceed over to a trip I've never been before.

I and mom enjoy the trip enjoying every bit of it. Looking out of the window watching so many vehicles on the wayside and many more.

Dad looks casual as usual. I don't know for sure if he enjoys the trip like we do or not.

He seems busy talking with Pak Saleh the driver.

Oh btw, my age now four months two weeks three days according to lilypie.com's report dad puts on my blog.

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One Day Away from Kudus Trip

135 Days Old Baby is blogging

Today there's a problem with the internet connection in my house. So I can't write anything from the comfort of my 'there-is-nothing-like-home'.

I used a Speedy internet connection belong to a state owned company PT TELKOM. It's fast, the problem is it's rely too much on landline phone cable so when the cable is stolen like the case now, the connection becomes a luxury for the users.

It's a day away from making a long journey to Kudus a place of pabrik rokok kretek Djarum (Djarum clove cigarette company) which is headquartered in Kudus, a place around 400 km from my place.

Wish me luck for my journey tomorrow.

Making a 400 km journey for a four month two weeks baby like me certainly make not only me who are worried, dad and mom are also worried.

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Kudus Trip Two Days to Go

134 Days Old Baby is blogging:

Well, it's Friday. A good Friday. Mom starts getting busier preparing everything so that when the D-day to go to Kudus Jateng, that's Sunday, comes we can go without anything left or forgotten.

Mom seems excited with the plan, while dad seems casual and even not as excited as mom does. Probably even the opposite. Dad like making trip alone without any crowd or other people involved. This journey however will be with uncle Luthfi and mom's neighbor. Also, on returning home, there are additional two persons: aunt Suffah and gramma. So, dad seem unable to enjoy such kind of trip.

In the morning we went shopping to Indomaret Kepanjen and also to Kepanjen's market buying vegetables and other daily needs.

Nothing important in the afternoon and everning except that mom and dad don't like the way I behave today. I can understand that they could'nt understand why I cry often without any obvious reasons. There are times when I desperately wanted to explain to them but I am forced to keep quiet as the ability of talking still elude me.

May be next year when I am a year and half old baby I'll be able to speak and will be able to tell parents the reasons of any unpleasant behavour that I am doing that make them unhappy.

Oh one more thing, dad just book the hotel in Kudus for our stay at Sunday and Monday.

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The Kudus Trip Plan

133 Days old baby is talking to the world:

I haven't told you that we plan to have a trip to Kudus, Jawa Tengah (central java) apart from visiting the still alive mom's uncle, we want to visit mom's cousing wedding party on 22 June 2009.

Mom is busy preparing this trip which will start on Sunday, 21 June 2009. Not only is she busy in preparing what kind of clothes for me and mom, but also the more important, to consult pediatrician about my well being and physical readiness.

If you are a new visitor to this blog, I need to tell you that I am now just a four months two weeks old baby. God bless me that I am able to blog and share my everyday experience with you.

That's said, I am just an ordinary 4 months baby as far as physical condition goes. But pediatrician we consult assures us that I am, God wills, prepared physically to go distances with mom and dad.

Speaking of Kudus, it'll take about 8 hours by car from my place. Right from Malang - Surabaya - Lamongan - Tuban - Kudus.

Deep inside me, I pray I wish I could stand the physical exercise I 'll go through in the trip which is two days from now.

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4 Months 1 Week 6 Days Baby

132 days old baby is talking

A day left for me to be a 4 months 2 weeks old baby. As usual dad rushes to find out what I am supposed to do in such age. Some expert says, I am supposed to "be nursing or drinking about 5 to 6 ounces 4 to 6 times each day (24 to 32 ounces), but over the next month or two, dad and mom can start to familiarize their infant (that's me) with the feel of a spoon and start solid baby foods."

Well, I'm grateful that until now mom eagerly wanted to exclusively breastfeed me. So, I drink no iron fortified infant formula except at the first days when mom's breast milk did not go out smoothly.

Common Four months baby problems are as follows

Common Infant Problems
Thrush
Diaper Rashes
Constipation
Infant Reflux and Spitting Up
Heat Rash
Eczema
Cradle Cap

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Baby Photos

131 Days Old Baby

So that the collection of my photos are not clustered, dad wants the link towards baby photo collection can be found on one particular pages. Hence the creation of this page.

This page later on can be found at the top tab near BABY VIDEO menu.

Dad wants to post my photos dad after day as a witness towards baby development from the time he (yes, that's me) was born.

Links to my Photos Collection



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Baby Video

130 Days Baby

I have compiled some of my own videos. To make thing better arranged, managed and navigate, I'll put all video link in this page.

Thus if you want to see me in action through my video performance, you may refer to this page.

Thus far I've collected and uploaded four baby videos (yeah, right, they're my own videos). You may check this page link from time to time to see more.


These are Baby Video in Action. Yeah, it's Me



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Going to Malang

129 Days Baby

It's Sunday and dad asks mom and me to go to Malang's downtown, a half-hour trip by own-car. It'll take an hour or more if you go by bus or other public service transportation like angkot (angkotan kota - a minibus suzuki carry/ daihatsu car with 8 passenggers) or Bison (mini bus wagon car with 12 passengers).

Malang is a big city, the second biggest in Jatim (east java) after Surabaya. It's also called Kota Pendidikan or education city because so many universities (state and private) are located here. It's understandable considering Malang is a cold city very comfortable place for students.

So, we go to Malang's downtown to Bayaqub to buy books and Islamic song cassettes and CDs for children. We also go to Children stores to buy baby car seats for me. It turns out dad doesn't like the car seat (mom likes so much), so we only bought baby clothes outthere.

We end up in McDonald near Alun-alun Malang to have a fried chicken (with rice, of course), not burger. Dad and mom just could'nt eat burger with their stomach empty. Eating burger for them, and for other Indonesians, are just like eating buscuit. Will make them still hungry.

We arrive home afternoon without visiting Kauman Kepanjen, our gramma's house.

Baby Car Seat which I fail to have (it's ok may be next ime). The price in Indonesia is about IDR 850 (USD 85). Dad thinks it's too expensive.


Baby Car Seat

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Going To Kauman Kepanjen

128 Days Baby. 4 months 1 week 2 days.
It's Saturday actually we're not supposed to go to Kauman (gramma's house) again. But mom needs to go there to take her jamu (traditional medicine) outthere.

As the place so near with gramma's house, we visit gramma first and ask cousin Tajul Anwar to buy the jamu.

The jamu is called gejah. It's specifically consumed by a mother who just give birth to a baby. As far as mom is concerned, the baby is me.

In Javanese tradition, there are some rules after a mother delivering a child to keep her fit and healthy. One of those are to drink jamu, to wear a certain wide belt to make her stomach back to its previous form etc.

Mom does all that.

A mother also is supposed to dedicate her full time to her newborn kid. Ideally she should breastfeed her kid exclusively for six months. And mom promises me to do just that. After six months mom will still breastfeeds me. The difference is it's no longer exclusive meaning I'll be allowed to eat solid food as well.

Two months to go to do just that. Just curious what cereal and porridge taste look like.

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4 Months 1 Week 1 Day Baby

127 Days Baby.
It's Friday. I am on gramma's house. We're supposed to go here yesterday as usual but dad and mom seems feeling unwell.

Dad however asks mom to go today to visit gramma. While dad come home again to prepare for "pengajian Jum'at legi" he hold every month. The pengajian attended mostly by ponpes Alkhoirot alumni.

Gramma seems so glad to see me coming. She right away takes me from mom and carry me with her.

Gramma likes me a lot because I am, as she once said, so cute.

Hmm.. I don't know if it's true. The thing is every baby is cute, no?

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Four Months One Week Baby

My age now is 126 Days or 4 months 1 week. Dad and mom said I should be prepared physically because we have plan to have a long journey to Kudus, Jawa Tengah / Jateng (central java) on June 21 that is next week.

Mom says it'll take about between 8 to 10 hours by car. We'll visit mom's uncle who's been sick for quite long time besides after mom married to dad she never go there to visit him. In our custom, after marriage a bride or groom should visit all his / her uncles and aunts at least.

Besides visiting mom's uncle, we're supposed to attend mom's cousin wedding too.

Mom seems looking forward to that trip. Dad, however, does not.

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Pak Nyoto Aftermath

125 Days Baby

A day after we arrived home from Pak Nyoto Tulungagung yesterday along with other people including Bik Luthfiyah Syuhud, gramma Hj. Khairiyah Kauman Kepanjen, Bu Anis Sulala and mbak Muti'ah (our maid and babysitter) and Haji Ali Mansyur (driver) and of course dad and mom come alsong.

It took a few hours for Pak Nyoto to give therapy to all of us with all kinds of diseases. Haji Ali with his diabetes, Bu Anis Sulala (Pak Yasin's wife) with her wish to have a baby, Mother with her pooping problem (twice or once a week), Aunt Luthfiyah Syuhud with her nerve and eyes and dad who wants his plus eyes get cured.


But Pak Nyoto is a therapist with a good speaking skills. During therapy process he keeps talking and telling stories with good behaviour and making everyone impressed. His patient and cool manner make all his patient feel assured and calm too.

You may watch his way of giving therapy in a video here (when he was giving therapy to me).

A photo before going to Pak Nyoto Tulungagung


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Therapy at Pak Nyoto Tulungagung House

Day 124 Baby

It turns out that Mom wanted me to get therapy as well. As I said yesterday that I was the only one who will not get therapy from Pak Nyoto. But mom changes her mind and she wants me to be checked / diagnosed by and get therapy from Pak Nyoto. Dad unfortunately agree with mom.

Mom thinks if Pak Nyoto can cure and remove my lump on the left neck, he must be capable of curing my other problem as well. I haven't told you yet, that my hand and palm of hand and sole of foot are always wet. We call it 'paru-paru basah' literally means wet lung (desease). I don't know if it really means what it's said.

In short, Pak Nyoto gives me the therapy by massaging some part of my body. It's not painful, nevertheless I cry outloud. Here's the video for you to watch:




Amazingly, my wet hand palm and foot sole no longer wet after being 'touched' by Pak Nyoto's hand! Well, they're sometimes still wet but not as much as before. I hope they will get cured entirely after a few days or months.
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To Go to Pak Nyoto Tulungagung Again

123 Days Old Baby

We plan to go to Pak Nyoto Tulungagung again tomorrow. If you don't know him, you may read about this in my previous posting on him.

I forgot to tell you that after doing treatment by Pak Nyoto, the lump in my neck is really gone! My mom prayer has really been heard. Now I can turn my neck on the left and right freely as any baby can be.

The plan this time to go to Pak Nyoto again is not for treating me. We bring more people outthere: Aunt Luthfiyah Syuhud, Mom, Gramma, bu Anis Sulala (Pak Yasin's wife, our neighbor), Haji Aliman Imron (who aslo will drive the car) and our new baby sitter, Mbak Muti'ah) will come along

All, except me will check up their health to Pak Nyoto. As I said, he's expert in alternative medication. And I have been one of his patient who has been treated well. Had it been for his treatment, the lump in my nect would have been operated to remove it.

I'll write about it again tomorrow after coming back from there.

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Four Months Baby Photos

122 Days Baby

Apart from a simple video to celebrate my four months old milestone, dad also took some pictures of me in that very special day.

My "action" in these photos vary but mostly they're taken when I was on the bed. You know, actually I hate telling you this, that's because I still can't sit. I am just able to lift my neck a little bit and that's a bit late.

As a neighbor said to mom, I should be able to lift my neck before four months of my age. But others say the ability to move, to talk etc vary among babies. May be I am one of those who are a bit slow in moving. They say I am a bit too chubby.

These are some of my pictures taken during four month "celebration."


Farzan Esfandiar


Farzan Esfandiar

Farzan Esfandiar

Farzan Esfandiar
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Four Months Baby Video

121 days baby diary:

In celebrating my four months old milestone, dad does it simply by making a simple video of me staying in bed and staring at the camera.

Actually when recording the video dad and mom wanted me to smile or do a funny act. But I don't know why, I am just not in the mood at the time.

Dad and mom think may be I am a little tired or just sleepy. The truth is I have no idea the reason. Baby like me just as moody as any grown-up can be, you know. You may smile or quiet for no real reason.

Well, to make it short, here's the video of a four month old baby in action. Not so good a video to be honest (dad says so), but enough to make me remembering the day when I open up this post later in my six or so years of age. I wish I can fast-forward the time.



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Four Months and a Day

121 Days Baby

Dad seems happy to read this statement: "When your baby reaches the age of four months, things will really start to happen fast. He is growing and learning about his world. He is interested in everything he sees or hears. He is reaching for things and putting them in her mouth. This is how he learns about them."

Well, the quotation is right. The time I reach the four months milestone yesterday I just could not resist doing all things mentioned above.

That makes dad and mom alarm and caution grow too. They just can't leave me alone.

Here's the continuation of the above article:

When she is feeding, she stops and plays with your clothes, or she looks at other people in the room.

She may try to roll over. The more she tries, the better she can do it.

She smiles when she sees her parents and other people who care for her. She may frown when she sees strangers. She babbles. She tries to imitate your words as she makes sounds.

She may start sleeping at night for longer and longer periods of time. She will love it when you sit on the floor and play with her. You can have a lot of fun with your baby at this age.

The more you help her explore, the more she will reward you with smiles, happy sounds and love. You can help her by playing with her, singing to her and talking to her. Enjoy your baby as she grows and develops!


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Four Months Old Baby (Day 120)

Okey, so here I am a four months old baby now. As you may know, I was born on February 4, 2009 four months ago.

I am so happy that I am able to reach this milestone with relatively very smooth way. My life is good. Dad and mom love me so much. Gramma (mom's mother) loves me too. Uncles, aunts and cousins both from dad and mom's side all are congenial to me.

What else I expect? Nothing more perfect than to live surrounded by people who love you a lot.

Mom told me that many babies are not as fortunate as I am. Some of them are being killed by their parents because their presence are unwanted. Some of them are simply live under impoverished parents which make them not well nourished.

My Dad and mom are not coming from rich family. That's said they have enough to feed me and to arrange my further education later. That's more than enough. And I am thankful to Almight Allah for whatever blessing God gives me through the love of my mother and my father. God bless them all.



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Day 119: Learning with Four Month Old Baby

Dad and mom seems eager to learn a lot about me and my behaviour especially when I reach four month hallmark tomorrow.

What they really want to know is what are things that they need to do to help me grow in normal or even faster pace as a four months old baby.

After searching for a good article, I found one which may help dad and mom help me as they expected me to be.

Here's a good info that dad and mom need to know:

* A four-month-old baby is interested in people and recognizes those who are familiar to him.
* He squirms with excitement, squeals and laughs.
* He watches his hands.
* His hands are now usually open and he clasps his hand around objects that he touches.
* Coordinating looking and reaching is difficult, but he can manage if he gets a lot of help from you.

You may need to read another better article on four month baby growth and development here too.
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Photos Farzan Esfandiar

These photos are taken mostly by my mother some by dad when I am almost four months of age.











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Day 118: Naked Baby Video

This is ridiculous. Mom tapes me in a video when I was having bath! I try to explain to her that I don't like being shot when I am naked. But mom insists saying that it's an opportunity to be recorded naked while I am still a four month baby. She asks me to promise not to take this kind of action as a grown up boy years from now.

Well, of course I will never do that. Islamically speaking it's forbidden to be naked in front of camera like I do now when I reach puberty -- around 13 years old, dad told me. Regardless, I give up arguing with mom on this and let her do what she wanted to do. Wish her happy. I promise I'll remove this video when I know how to do it.


Here's the 'shameful' video




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Day 117: First June 2009

It's Monday. I supposed to go with dad to the Bank BRI Kepanjen but considering mom is still not feeling well I stay at home all day. Dad also postpone his plan to go to BRI Kepanjen because of this. So I spend all day sleeping or listening to dad and mom talk; or just watching dad reading newspaper or books.

Frankly it's a bit boring to spend the day just stay in front of tv set sitting idle all the time. Sometimes I let mom and dad know how boring I am by crying. And keep quiet whenever dad or mom carry me.

Calendar wise, it's three days away from four months hallmark of my age. Here's what four month baby development should be:

Beginning to understand the role of language

Researchers believe that your baby can now understand all the basic sounds that make up his native language. Between this time and 6 months of age, your baby will develop the ability to make some vocal sounds, which means you may hear the words you've been dreaming about, namely "ma-ma" or "da-da." While child development experts say it's too early for your baby to connect those sounds with you and your partner, that won't make hearing them any less exciting.

You can encourage your baby's attempts at communication by mirroring or imitating his expressions and sounds. He may try to imitate you now, too. Say "baa" and he may try to say it back.

Reacting when your baby makes noises or tries to say something will help your baby learn the importance of language. It'll also help him better understand cause and effect. It's great for his self-esteem, too. He'll begin to realize that what he says makes a difference.

Expand on what your baby says and try to give it meaning. For example, you can say, "Yes, that is a ball!" Soon, his "ba" will become "ball."
Time for solid food?

For the first four to six months of life, your baby gets all the nutrients he needs from breast milk or formula. Still, parents are often eager to start their babies on solid food.

It's true that your baby's digestive tract is more developed now and his tongue-thrust reflex is starting to fade, so it seems a logical time to start feeding him some solids, such as pureed baby food or cereal. But there are good reasons to wait, too.

Starting solids later may cut down on possible allergic reactions, and ensures that breast milk or formula won't get crowded out of your baby's diet. And if you're hoping that eating solids will help your baby sleep through the night, studies have shown that you can't count on that happening.

The debate over when to start solids continues. If you're unsure about when to introduce them to your baby, talk to his doctor.
Remember, your baby is an individual

All babies are unique and meet milestones at their own pace. Developmental guidelines simply show what your baby has the potential to accomplish — if not right now, then soon. If your baby was premature, keep in mind that kids born early usually need a bit more time to meet their milestones. If you have any questions at all about your baby's development, ask your healthcare provider.


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